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THOUGHTS ON BEING A PARENT

Lisa — Mon, 15 Feb 2021 19:02:47 +0000

Parenthood. It will twist and turn you in every way possible. It will form you like you could never imagine.

You will feel more emotions in one day than you ever cared to feel.

You will be humbled, embarrassed, sweaty, unsure, pushed to your limits, thankful but most of all loved.

You will learn how to forgive easily and how to be fully present with every fiber of your body.

You will wonder how so much love could fit in your heart. And then you will be smacked in the face by a sippy cup.

You will be tired for the next million years and you will look back and wonder how you could function with such little sleep.

You will never be so worried in your life and will google more than you ever knew someone could google.

You will never get so many advices and you will question yourself (a lot) but you will also learn how to ignore the unnecessary and trust your instinct.

There will be days which will be hard but you will never give up because you know it`s worth the effort.

You will honor every step of the way because you know time moves so quickly.

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LOVE vs. FEAR

Lisa — Mon, 16 Oct 2017 00:38:01 +0000

When did this all begin? Those constant wave of worry! I never actually thought of myself as an anxious person, but since I am a mom somehow everything changed. What I found out for myself is, that motherhood feels like you booked a front seat in the world`s wildest rollercoaster ride. First there is this endless love, so much love – you could have never imagined your heart can feel. There is this saying that being a parent feels like you are carrying your heart outside of your body. And I never really understood this before, but now, I do. Knowing that your are the one who is responsible for this little precious raw life, makes you feel like that there is danger waiting behind each corner. So there is also fear connected to this huge love. Fear of loosing it. Fear of failing and somehow screwing it up.

Everything already started at the beginning of pregnancy. There I was worrying if everything stays smooth, waiting for every check up where I was hopefully able to hear this little heartbeat, so close to mine that it felt like one. Later in pregnancy I was getting nervous about half an hour not feeling her kicking inside my womb.. where is she? what is she doing? why don`t I feel her?

The worry continued every month I headed to the doctor. Always waiting for a positive look on his face and this little heart beating on the screen.

Then I was worried about the birth. Will it be as smooth as the pregnancy was? Hopefully she arrives not exactly when Chris is on a business trip? Or what if he gets stuck in traffic on his way home from work? I don`t want to get our baby in Uber my mind goes. Hopefully I will be able to give birth naturally. Everything but just NO C-Section my mind goes again.

Then Maya was here. And the first 2 weeks were a constant check of her breath (nearly every half an hour) uncertain about the amount of sleep a newborn needs!? Do they really sleep that much?? Now I know! Yes they do 🙂

When she started to roll around, I was afraid she could roll over the bed.. then she started eating, so I was worried that she could choke on a carrot.. oh and then the ability of suffering a concussion when she learned how to sit up. The possibility of fracturing her little teeth when she started crawling or slipping as she learned how to pull herself up to standing.

Right now, it`s the fear of falling since she crawls on top of pretty much everything. Thinking that there will be so much more to worry about in future already gives me goosebumps. Her first steps (what if she falls on a sharp object and cuts her lips), her first day at Kindergarden (will the kids be nice to her), her first ride with the bike,.. but in the midst of all this worry, there is also so much space for being happy and proud.

Even if I am not consciously worrying, I know this fear is there. And it will properbly stay there for quite a bit now. Maybe for the rest of my life. Because this just comes with the whole package of being a parent. And this is beautiful and scary at the same time. Having something in your life you care so much, is sometimes not really graspable. Never could I have imagined that there is a love that big and magical, that it scares you day in day out. I guess I just have to accept it as my daily companion and better learn how to not let it take over and influence my actions as a mom. Observing those feelings as they come and go. Controlling my mind while calming my fear. Trying to react more out of love than out of fear. Learning that I have to let go more than I wish, if I want her to embrace life to its fullest.

So I try and learn, also accepting that I will fail from time to time. Because that`s what we do. But I will never certainly never give up trying to be the mom she deserves until I eventually succeed. And my chances are good, when I act more out of love instead out of fear.

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THE HOSPITAL BAG GUIDE

Lisa — Sun, 18 Sep 2016 16:04:33 +0000

So everybody who is following me more closely on social media, knows about my lately adapted baby belly pic obsession 😉 since there are only a few more days left where I can carry around this little bump. Actually it´s only one more day until the official due date! ONE DAY!! Can you believe it?! These 9 months passed so quickly that I still can’t grasp it.. but the shorter the past months felt, the longer the end feels like; so enjoying every last minute of being pregnant while getting fuzzy from waiting all at the same time.

As I am coming closer to my due date, the more questions I get what I am going to bring to the hospital. Good question. Maybe all the same stuff what others bring too. And to be honest I had no clue, when I started packing. So the first thing what I did was checking Pinterest what other mummies actually do bring and I think, I figured it out, at least for me. So I will let you have a closer look into my hospital bag(s) today which maybe clarify some of your questions too.

Since I plan on having the shortest stay possible (1 night, if everything goes well) I will only bring a small amount of clothes. My original dream birth would have actually been a home birth but since there are no such things as ” midwifes ” here in Malaysia, I had to go for the best possible alternative. So i found the only doctor performing water birth here on the island and who has also a more holistic approach on the whole giving birth thing compared to others.

So here is my LITTLE CHECKLIST what to bring along for this big day. Some things on the list might vary due to your art of delivery, the length of your stay at the hospital, the country you are living in as well as the climate conditions etc.

F O R M U M M Y

Documents
PJ (if you dont wanna wear the hospital gown)
Long comfy Cardigan
Legging
Wide blouse (best with buttons; easier when nursing)
Nursing bra
Nursing pads
Granny pants (comfy underwear)
Panty Liners
Comfy wide dress (to move during labour)
Bikini Top
Scarf
Slippers / Flip Flops
Lip balm
Lanolin nipple cream (to prevent from sore nipples right at the beginning)
Toothbrush & paste
Shower gel & shampoo
Hairbrush
Hair ties

F O R B A B Y

Carseat / Maxi cozy

Baby wrap

Romper

Hoodie

Diapers

Wipes

F O R D A D D Y

Bathing shorts

Toothbrush

Underwear

One spare outfit (optional)

A R O M A T H E R A P Y

Currently I am using the oils from young living which already helped me a lot during my pregnancy but they are also a great supporter during or after labour.

So you might wanna check the young living page for a more detailed information.

OIL	DOSAGE	FIELD OF APPLICATION
Rosemary	Put 2 drops in the bathtub	to stimulate labour
Lavender	Put 2 drops in the diffuser	for a better circulation and a calming mind; has antiseptic and anti-inflammatory properties
Surrender	Put 2 drops in the diffuser or use directly on your skin. Put 1 drop on your temples and forehead.	to promote trust
Pan away	Massage with 2-4 drops the lower back region	against backache
Joy	Rub 2 drops on to the sternum	against baby blues
Gentle baby	Rub 2-4 drops on your baby belly or directly on your baby	for bonding
Frankincense	Rub 1 drop on the crown of your baby	for protection

I also love to have a neroli & patchouli aroma mist with me to use during the birth process to keep me stimulated but relaxed. Another good alternative would be rosewater.

And of course I always bring crystals. Amethyst, clear and rose quartz massage stones you can use together with some aroma oil to get rid of tension in your back.

E L E C T R O N I C S T U F F (Daddy can take care of)

Mobile phone (with birthing music on)
Charger
Bluetooth speaker
Camera
Video cam
Diffuser

S N A C K S like dates, coconut water or musli bars (since you never know how long its going to be?!)

This list should summarize all the hundreds of lists I found including my own must-haves to give you an idea what to bring best for your own big moment. I hope it helps.

L O V E ,

yours Lisa

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